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| “Like the waves and the tide, Life Goes On..And It Should!” |
Points2Ponder
By Alan P.
Scaglone
So I have to be honest, I am grappling with making sense of
it all.
I just spent a week preparing and supporting my family while
they went through this painful time of unexpected death, letting go and moving
on.
I think it’s the last one that I am having trouble with.
I took care of them and made sure they had everything they
needed. From pictures to Kleenex—it was my job as their father, brother, uncle,
brother-in-law, husband…
To help them through this impossible task of grasping the
concept of someone, NOT in their sunset years, leaving us suddenly.
And I was there for them—never asking them to be there for
me.
But now…I have to admit…I’m having a little trouble with
“moving on”—picking up the pieces—making some sense of it all—and carrying on
without him.
Hey, don’t get me wrong—I’ve had a lot of practice. My mom,
niece, father, best friend and now…oldest brother…all left us “before their
time” as people say.
We trust in God, and that HE knows their time, so…it must
have been “Their time” on God’s clock!
And I know from experience…Life goes on!
POINTS2PONDER
Why is it so amazing that, when we are
dealing with a tragedy in our life, the flowers are still blooming and the
grass is still growing—outside our window? Why is it just when we think we
cannot go on or live through this heartbreaking period of our lives, we realize
that…people are still going to the beach and going to work, planning weddings
and having babies because…Life Goes On!
Speaking of the beach…my wife knew…I needed to go where
everything just makes sense to me—for me, my calm place is…watching the waves,
seeing the tide roll in…my feet wet from the water!
She knew I was having a day of mourning. I am allowed that.
I know where he is, but I also know where he isn’t, and he’s not at the other
end of his phone to call nor at his townhouse in Clearwater to visit.
I was quiet…which she
knows…is NOT typical me!
She said…”let’s go for a drive!” and we wound up at the
Beach!
I walked along the shore, got wet past my knees. The water
was cold…for a minute, but then…that State of Acclimate! And all was well…It
really did calm me down.
Fathers were building sandcastles with their sons, mothers
were putting sun block on their daughters, brothers were throwing Frisbees and
footballs and young couples were arm in arm.
And it hit me…. “Life goes on…”
During all that I have been through in the past 10 days,
this beach has been full of families doing what families do at a beach…sharing
and enjoying some R and R – Rest and Relaxation!
And that’s the way it is supposed to be…
Kids need sun block and to be taught how to make
sandcastles, boys need to throw Frisbees and footballs and those couples, they
have to walk in the water arm in arm!
It reminds us that… no matter how rough the moment, and it
may get pretty tough for a period of time…but, always…there’s a kid out there,
on the shore, playing in the sand with his dad!
And I get it…Joe did it with his daughter while someone
mourned a loss; now they are teaching sandcastle 101 to their son while I mourn
the loss of my big brother.
It is as it should be…
Life goes on.
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